Have You Noticed That White Dudes Keep Mass Murdering People?

Had to take this from Katie J.M. Baker at Jezebel.com. Too good to pass up.

When anyone who isn’t a white and relatively well-off man strides into a public place and guns down innocent civilians, we attack his race and/or religious beliefs before we bury his victims in the ground. But when yet another privileged white guy storms into a school or movie theater and kills dozens of people, we assume there’s something wrong with his brain instead of wondering whether his murderous rage has anything to do with good ol’ American macho entitlement. Are we ready to talk about it yet? Let’s.

This is hardly the first time we’ve questioned what makes white middle-class dudes more prone to shooting up public spaces; last summer, after the Aurora movie theater massacre, Hugo Schwyzer wrote that “the fact that these white male mass murderers felt so confident choosing public spaces to commit their crimes reflects a powerful truth about the culture in which they were raised.”

Huh, how about that? We wondered, briefly, and then we moved on with our lives. Gun sales spiked, as they always do after highly publicized mass shootings. The NRA — White Men Central — stayed silent via social media, but doubled its followers even though it shut down one of its Twitter accounts. Some more white dudes shot a bunch of people at temples and shopping malls. Now, twenty little kids are dead because another privileged white guy literally shot his way into an elementary school with a gun made by a company that tries to convince people to buy their killing weapons by telling them they’re crybabies if they’re not packing heat.

When Seung-Hui Cho killed 32 people at Virginia Tech, pundits instantly declared that his Korean upbringing had something to do with it. When Maj. Nidal Hasan went on a shooting rampage at Fort Hood shootings, we heard more about his Muslim faith than anything else. Yet, when David Sirota suggested on the Sunday morning edition of “Up” with Chris Hayes that the same conservative politicians and commentators who support racial profiling when black people or Muslims are the ones being profiled would rather sacrifice a few of their semi-automatic weapons than think critically about white men, the right-wing media freaked the fuck out.

“Leave it to the shamelessly craven NBC News cable outlet MSNBC to find a race-baiting angle on the Connecticut school massacre tragedy,” Breitbart crowed. “It is a basic tenet of progressive, left-wing ideology that all things boil down to race, gender or class.” (Oh, cool, it’s opposite day again and Breitbart‘s Shirley Sherrod scandal never happened!) The Blaze called it a “curious outburst” — you know, totally apropos of nothing. Fox News said Sirota “injected” race into the discussion.

Sirota didn’t actually recommend we start racially profiling middle-class white men; he just pointed out that that’s what would be happening if we were talking about any other demographic group. Over at Salon, he made the excellent point that the only reason we’re considering more complex issues like mental health and Hollywood gun-worship is because the mass murderer in question was, as per usual, well-off and white:

Let’s review: any honest observer should be able to admit that if the gunmen in these mass shootings mostly had, say, Muslim names or were mostly, say, African American men, the country right now wouldn’t be confused about the causes of the violence, and wouldn’t be asking broad questions. There would probably be few queries or calls for reflection, and mostly definitive declarations blaming the bloodshed squarely on Islamic fundamentalism or black nationalism, respectively. Additionally, we would almost certainly hear demands that the government intensify the extant profiling systems already aimed at those groups.

Yet, because the the perpetrators in question in these shootings are white men and not ethnic or religious minorities, nobody is talking about demographic profiling them as a group. The discussion, instead, revolves around everything from gun control, to mental health services, to violence in entertainment – everything, that is, except trying to understanding why the composite of these killers is so similar across so many different massacres. This, even though there are plenty of reasons for that topic to be at least a part of the conversation.

He’s right. In many cases, we don’t know much about the killer’s psyche, although they are usually described as “lonely” or “troubled” or “seemed autistic, now that I think about it.” (This is a good time to note that the mentally ill are more often the victims of violence than the perpetrators.) Of course mental health should be a factor, but we should focus more on what we do know about these murderers: that there’s obviously a direct link between growing up privileged and entitled and snapping when the world doesn’t give you what you’ve been conditioned to feel you deserve: money, happiness, love, whatever. As Hugo pointed out, white men aren’t more violent — rates of domestic violence are roughly the same across all ethnic groups — but “the less privileged you are, the less likely you are to take your violence outside of your family and your community.”

This morning, Jessica Valenti tweeted a photo of an ad for the gun Adam Lanza used to murder 26 people. As you can see, it reads “Consider your man card reissued.” The man-tastic fun doesn’t stop there; check out Bushmaster Firearms’ “Man Card” campaign. Apparently, some men are pussies who deserve to have their “man cards” revoked unless they buy guns to make themselves feel like their dicks are bigger.

Americans have fetishized the power and agency guns provide ever since the Revolutionary War; guns are such a pervasive part of our national consciousness that millions of people, mostly male, spend their downtime fantasizing about them via movies and video games. Even an unabashed gun-hater such as myself knows that most people who buy guns do so because they think it’s the best way to protect their family if danger arises. But since we know civilian gun-owners don’t actually stop mass murderers from gunning down innocent people, we no longer have the luxury of prioritizing macho daydreams over the mass murder of elementary school students — or allowing MRA-types to feel victimized because they can’t do whatever they want whenever they want to do it.

That’s not hyperbole; it’s just the truth, and why we have to “inject” race into the discussion right now. Will we go there?

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SantaCon 2012: HO! HO! HO! FUN! FUN! FUN!

SantaCon is an annual mass gathering of people dressed in Santa Claus costumes parading publicly on streets and in bars in cities around the world. The focus is on spontaneity and creativity, while having a good time and spreading cheer and goodwill.

In 1974, the Danish activist theatre group Solvognen first brought a small army of Santa Clauses onto the streets of Copenhagen.

Naturally, I didn’t waste anytime to whip out something festive out of my closet, fished out my annual gift wrap long sleeve top and green jeans and voila! I was ready to hit the town armed with my camera. For the pubs and lounges worldwide,  it’s a day to make buckets of $$$ besides St. Patrick’s Day and Oktober Fest!

Preview the photos below to see how much fun it was. If you see any image you fancy, just click on it to preview the enlarged version. As usual darling, all rights reserved :)

Ho Ho HO, Happy Holidays!

 

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The Killing of 20 Kids In The US, Stabbing In China

My heart goes out to all the victims in Connecticut, US, to the parents, as well as survivors of the devastating shoot out that took more than 20 young lives. No one should have to go through that all, least of all the young unarmed kids just starting out their lives.

Please correct me if I am wrong. It just hit me. Did I read somewhere that the gunman used his mother’s registered semi automatic gun? Has anyone stopped to wonder what the mother was doing with such a gun in the first place as an elementary school teacher? Is semi automatic allowed as one of the “right to bear arms” type of weapon? She must have been part of CIA/Secret Service or something. Just asking…it just dawned on me now. Hmm…again, just asking.

Innocent people are always victims of this so called “right to bear arm” rules that has taken so many lives in the US. When will someone wake up and take fun control more serious? NRA please, are you listening to their cries for mercy? This is not helping anyone at all. But then again, we heard of another man stabbing 22 people in China just yesterday. So what really gives? Gun, gas, knives, fire…sigh…

God help us all. 🙁

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My Holiday Wish List

Yes, it’s called “wish list” meaning I get to dream a bit and count my blessings. So here we go…

Let me know if I am asking for too much.  It doesn’t hurt for me to put it out there…at least. 😆

$500,000 London jewelers perfume, piece of cake.

 

Jimmy Choo bedazzled pumps for under $2000

 

The $6000 Kanye West white sandals. Sigh...

$3000 Giuseppe Zanotti Spiked Up & Crystalized Heeless Wedge

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Shoeholics Magazine At The MIN Awards!

Shoeholics was selected from a pool of over 750 new publications launched between October 2011-September 2012 and narrowed down to a very short list of 15 publications, Shoeholics Magazine made the list! – a medal of honor indeed!

Mr Samir Husni and I at the MIN Awards


As the Creative Director and Editor in Chief of Shoeholics Magazine, I was on hand today at the MIN Awards to represent the publication.

This nomination is a validation of the very concept of Shoeholics Magazine as a publication dedicated to male and female shoe collectors and fashion connoisseurs. You can imagine that on top of the warm reception from our readers and supporters, that warms the cockles of our hearts, this nomination is a real feather in our collective caps!

Mr Samir announcing and describing Shoeholics Magazine to a room full of publishing industry titans at the MIN Awards!

A distinctive concept, great content and the support of our readers has increased the reach of Shoeholics Magazine exponentially. The magazine can be found at many independent newsstands and major store chains such as Target, the International Magazine Store (IMS) in Europe, Duane Reade, Walgreens, Barnes & Noble, Joseph Beth, Horizon, Book World Inc, Books-a-Million, Hastings all stock the publication now. Not only that; the magazine is now available in Germany, Belgium, Switzerland and The Netherlands as well.

So now that we’re on the radar in more ways than one, we’re really breaking out the bubbly to kick off the New Year with a bang!

The awards gala honoring some of the best and biggest names in the publishing industry took place at the Marriott Marquis in New York City on December 10, 2012.

This news came just in time, ahead of the recent Shoeholics Magazine anniversary/holiday party where we had another reason to party and rejoice! Subscribe to Shoeholics Magazine now. Ships worldwide!

Shortly after the MIN Awards today, I made a pit stop at Fendi to say hello to my dear friend John.

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All That Jazz…In Zara & Wolford

I hope you had a wonderful weekend. I finally had a chance to step away from work and indulge in some much needed R & R dinning at SD26 restaurant in NYC before hitting the full party scene elsewhere. It was fun flirting in a pair of detailed Wolford stockings, Dolce and Gabbana pumps and fringed up jazzy Zara number I got a few months ago. Wore all of them for the first time except the shoes.

Some of you already emailed me asking about the stockings I posted on my Facebook page yesterday. The Wolford stockings was from a few years ago. I finally got around to wearing them! I have to say that I now regret not buying more than a pair when I had the chance. I love the way the detailed upper part shows just below the dress. I have never seen anything quite like them before. Whatever on earth took me so long to wear them!

Some key fashion pieces NEVER go out of style. It’s just as well that I still have them 🙂

Happy holidays!

While in the taxi

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The Best Political On Air Interview EVER! Ref: Obama

White House Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel

Chicago mayor and former White House Chief-of-Staff Rahm Emanuel tore into Fox News host Sean Hannity tonight on live television.   Emanuel was on the conservative network to offer his opinion on the night’s election results, which saw his former boss Barack Obama reelected to the presidency for another four  years.

A devastated Hannity, however, was intent on using the occasion to vent his rage at the nights events and incessantly provoked Emanuel’s ire:  “Is Barack Obama going to move to the center? Or is he going to continue his radical Socialist policies that are destroying America?”  Hannity asked, beginning a rapid-fire sequence of badgering questions:  ‘Is he going to start paying attention to ordinary Americans?  Or his he going to continue his government of, by, and for the welfare queens?  Is he going to ask the keep apologizing to our enemies? Or is he going to show some backbone and invade somebody?  Is he ever going to release his real birth certificate?  Or is he gonna continuing lying to the American people about his Kenyan heritage?”

“Sean…sean…,” Emanuel interrupted, “Sean…sean…sean…sean…sean… … shut the fuck up.  You Lost.  Get over it and move on.  Barack Obama is president for the next four years.  No amount of childish whining will change that fact.  Why don’t you start working on improving yourself as a person, rather than finding fault in others.

“At the moment you’re a terrible, cynical human being who gets rich off of other people’s ignorance.  Your entire existence is defined by intellectual stupor and purposelessness.  There’s not a single cell of your body that has any redeeming value whatsoever – not even the intestinal cells which host your parasites.”

“I feel deeply sorry for your children and your children’s children, who will have to bear the stain of their relationship to you for their entire lives.  I am a dumber, coarser, less centered individual for even having spoken to you, and I promise I will never repeat that mistake again.”

Emanuel then removed his microphone and quietly walked off the set.

 

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Fringes With Benefits

A beautiful day to window shop…in nothing but fringes. And why not in Escada suede fringed coat, Versace gold leather fringed bag coupled with Gianfranco Ferre winter white pants and Escada sleeveless turtle neck sweater…sans makeup, as always. Another gorgeous day during the holidays 🙂

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Shoeholics Magazing Holiday Party: My 2 Cents!

Shoeholics Magazine anniversary/holiday party took place on November 29, 2012 in New York City. So here’s my take on things, my 2 cents: What did you expect? OF COURSE IT WAS A SMASHING SUCCESS!!!

It took me more than 3 days just to get myself to write this blog, still recovering from the success and post coverage. Word has it that the party even made it all the way into paper in Europe! A copy is one the way to me now and I can’t wait to see it with my own eyes.

The party turned out far better than I had expected I must admit. Our main sponsor Kelley Simons was over the moon and enjoyed every bit of it. For me, seeing a sponsor happy is always important for any successful event. Without their support, there really will be no party…well, kind of. Full list of sponsors AND VIDEO FOOTAGE can be seen on Shoeholics website.

As expected, the night brought out some of the best shoe lovers! It was hard for me to select the Best Shoes of the night to win the shoe shaped handbag. The lovely host Sierra Scott in Swarovski crystal studded sandals could have easily won it had she not been the host. The other potential winner could have also been J.T. Anderson in Massimo Dogana thigh high snakeskin boots! Gosh, the choice was tough. In the end, Flory took home the honor when it was brought to my attention that she had designed her own shoes just for the party! How could anyone not award that kind of effort and dedication?

I sincerely apologize to some of the guests that arrived on time only to find us still setting up for the party! Pranna lounge, where the party was hosted, had us set up only 30 minutes to event start time after being told earlier that we could set up much earlier for the party. We had to do the impossible from setting up cakes, props, raffles, the works. We didn’t even get a chance to put up most of our decor. Needless to say, the Dukas glass dome decor stand by the UpperRoom Event (one of the proud sponsors) was the most photographed spot at the party. Everyone couldn’t get enough of the jaw dropping concept, having legs for heels! J’adore! Pranna turned out to be a good venue for our first year doing this party.

The leg heel shoes by Dukas

The lovely and charming Venus entertained the guests. She herself a shoe lover, didn’t hesitate to take on the gig despite having to come all the way from New Jersey for the event. Prior to the event, she hadn’t been to New York for a little over a year. She was very selfless to the point where she won one of the shoe raffled that night and donated it back for others to get the chance of winning! I have never met a selfless shoe lover before. It’s usually every girl for herself when talking about shoes! I have seen the claws at samples sales! Venus is an exceptional lady! 🙂

The dazzling array of shoes up for grabs had me batting my lashes and wide eyed. I had my heart set on one particular one by Francesco Sacco, the only one in my size at the raffle. I had high hopes that no one would claim it but was near tears when a tall regal looking Alvertis claimed it. Wishful thinking. I suppose I can’t be selfish and claim it all. Francesco Sacco had one specially made for me for the party, my heart was racing fast when I opened the box and out comes “little heaven on earth.” It arrived at my home 3 hours to the event via DHL still smelling of the factory in Italy! Ahhh…the smell of fresh shoes, intoxicating!

So now that the party is in the bag and more behind the scene coverage coming up in the April/June 2013 print issue of Shoeholics Magazine, many people are writing to us asking for an encore! Hmm…I suppose this calls for an annual event. We just might have a good reason to strut in our favorite shoes around the holidays. We do hope to be able to pull it off. If only we could get a liquor sponsor to back this up. Nothing beats a party with a free flowing open bar. Hear! Hear! Happy holidays!

He insisted on seeing my shoes!

Celebrity stylist David Vigilance

Good times with designer Okey Onugha at the party

Sierra Scott in one of the most beautiful shoes at the party

My good friend and model Marina Cavallini in her favorite shoes. HOT!

Venus during her performance

Sukari Treats cake display at the party

 

With Jezebel.com Editor Dodai Stewart and Jonathan Schnapp's (aka DJ Workhorse) and event host Sierra Scott at the Shoeholics Magazine anniversary/holiday party in NYC.

J.T. Anderson in Massimo Dogana thigh high boots

Italian designer Massimo Dogana and VH1 TV personality Elizabeth Ann at the Shoeholics Magazine anniversary/holiday party in NYC

Shoeholics Club member Diata Wallace with her raffle prize Minna Parikka. Lucky lady

 

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Singer Janelle Monáe’s Moving Speech That Had Me In Tears

“When I started my music career, I was a maid. I used to clean houses. My mother was a proud janitor. My stepfather, who raised me like his very own, worked at the post office and my father was a trashman. They all wore uniforms and that’s why I stand here today, in my black and white, and I wear my uniform to honor them.

This is a reminder that I have work to do. I have people to uplift. I have people to inspire. And today, I wear my uniform proudly as a Cover Girl. I want to be clear, young girls, I didn’t have to change who I was to become a Cover Girl. I didn’t have to become perfect because I’ve learned throughout my journey that perfection is the enemy of greatness.

Embrace what makes you unique, even if it makes others uncomfortable.” – Janelle Monáe
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